One perspective on love

8.3.2010 20:53
Satu

"Let me tell you a little something about love. It´s different every time. It´s nothing more than a chemical reaction, an arrow over an equation, but the elements change. The most fragile kind of love is that between a man and a woman. Chemistry, again: if you introduce a new element, you never know how stable original bond is. You may wind up with a new union, with something left behind. I believe that you can fall in love many times with many different people. However I don´t think that you can fall in love the same way twice. One type of relationship may be steady. Another may be fire and brimstone. Who is to say if one of these is better than the other? The deciding factor is how it all fits together. Your love, I mean, and your life.

The problem is that when you´re old enough to really find a soulmate, you´re already carrying around all this extra baggage. Like where you grew up, and how much money you make, and whether you like the country or the city. And sometimes, most of the time, you fall really hard for someone who you just can´t squeeze into the limits of your life. The bottom line is: when your heart sets its sights on someone, it doesn´t consult with your mind.

Most people don´t marry the loves of their lives. You marry for compatibility; for friendship. And there´s a lot to be said for that. It may not be a kind of relationship where you can read each other´s minds, but it´s comfortable, like a familiar warm spot on your favorite chair. That´s just another kind of love, one that doesn´t burn itself out, one that lasts in the real world."